Books: Quiet (read-a-long)

As a young girl/teen my dad would knock on my door, open it, and say 'just checking to make sure you're okay'.  I remember thinking 'why wouldn't I be okay'... he probably thought he was raising a hermit.

Confession, until reading this book I have never thought to label myself as an introvert but rather as a calm, quiet, focused person (I have been told this my entire life, that I'm quiet).  

In one of Joy's posts she references the link between being an introvert and a risk taking (ie: skydiving).  I promise you I'm NOT a risk taker but rather someone who enjoys adventure. Everything I do is carefully researched, planned and executed. I have skydived.

This makes me wonder... do you think I'm a risk taker? I have never thought of myself this way - hmmmm.

Did you know that shyness is the fear of negative judgement and being an introvert is a preference for quiet, minimally stimulating environments?  


I'm late joining Joy's read-a-long so I'm only answering a few questions.  I'm eager to click through to other posts and wonder if any extroverts are reading with us!

Have you read the book? 
Are you surprised to discover I'm a hermit in disguise? 

Let's get to the questions!

What result did you get in the quiz on pages 13 and 14? Are you an introvert, extrovert, or something in between? Were you surprised by the result? I scored 20/20 on the introvert quiz AND I'm shy.  Simply put, I'm most calm when I'm alone or when I'm interacting on my terms. 

Looking at the quiz again, how do you think your closest family members would fill it out? Are they similar to or different from you in the introversion-extroversion spectrum? After reading this book my boisterous husband could be an introvert.  When I asked him if he was aware of this book and the concept he mentioned he has been profiled (of course he has).  He leans toward introvert but has adapted to extrovert in social situations. This ignited a long discussion about work culture, people we know, etc...    

Have you found ways to be extroverted in spite of a tendency toward introversion? How did it work out?  I, like many, have found a path to succeed without letting on that I'm trembling inside. 

Overall, what did you think of the book? I enjoyed the book and am walking away with a comfort level that it's okay to struggle with modern practices, such as collaboration and group think.  It's nice to know I'm not alone with this internal pull, wanting to participate but feeling paralyzed since I prefer to complete projects on my own. 

I'm constantly searching for answers (what if), and as the author mentions... 'solitude is the air I breathe'.  

It's a curious notion that bloggers tend to be introverts.  Blogging is a vehicle that allows us to express ourselves. We are smart, articulate, fun!  Give us a chance to shine, we will surprise you.  We may even come across as extroverts.  

There are many historical figures noted throughout the book.  It's been a long time since I have spent so much time with Gandhi.  Did you know that in the eighth grade I wrote a term paper on Gandhi, my research introduced me to a man of biblical stature? This led me to become a vegetarian, choosing to withhold and be compassionate.  ~ not related to the subject matter we are discussing, but a life altering moment for me. 

~ thank you Joy for hosting this read-a-long.  It's the push I needed to move this to the top of my stack, AND the added bonus of discussion is always welcome.

5 comments

  1. I'm glad you found this helpful!

    I also liked the new awareness that it's okay to struggle with the way the world's structured for extroverts -- and to find ways to make my own structures that work better for me.

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  2. I read Quiet when it was first released, and loved this book. I am a "shy introvert", but once I get to know people, I am more like an extrovert, as I am no longer worried about being judged. Does that make sense.

    I always hated business social functions and that was one of the reason, I retired from my HR career in my late 40's, and found "library jobs" more me.

    You don't seem like an introvert, but then it is hard to know just based on a blogging relationship.

    Take Care

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  3. I always say I started blogging to express opinions that I couldn't when living with a super extroverted (now-ex) husband. He never, ever stopped talking long enough for introverted me to talk.
    I'm looking forward to finishing this book. I have it on my iPod, which I lost, so I need to get a new one to finish listening to it in the car.

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  4. I don't have the quiz to take but I think I am a rare 50/50 gal. I can be very quiet and introverted but I can also be very outgoing and "out there" if you know what I mean. I am able to flip the switch when I need to but I prefer being quiet.

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  5. I haven't read Quiet but am very certain I would be an introvert. A friend and co-worker read it recently and of course I quizzed her on it. She revealed she too is an introvert but from what I knew I never would have guessed it. It is amazing how we, as introverts, have found ways to live in an extroverted world. I work in an industry that requires interaction with customers all day long and when I return home I just want to curl up with a book or blog to get my balance back.

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